Self love is the best love...
Sharing the journey of the girl who found herself on the other side of the world. Blogging my way into your hearts by sharing my personal stories of fails and wins throughout this crazy thing we call life.
There are some people you simply can’t wait to spend time with. You are excited, eager and are counting down the days. These are the best types of people! You are likely embraced with a warm hug. You can have endless hours of meaningful conversation. You smile and laugh a lot in each other’s presence. You feel uplifted and oh so happy spending time with this person. In fact with as good as you feel after you spend time together; you simply can’t wait to see them again!
On the other hand; there are some people you can’t wait to get away from. You feel anxious and stressed as the time gets closer to be in their presence. You’re anxiously looking at the clock waiting until you can make your getaway. There are many reasons that you may not vibe with someone in person, but don’t ignore those feelings. There’s a reason your inner guide is feeling unpleasant. My recommendation would be to stop spending time with this person or people altogether! I understand that sometimes that is simply not feasible for one reason or another, so in those cases; I’d at least limit my interactions as much as possible.
You see; the way you feel around someone is a direct reflection of what you will obtain from the relationship. In my opinion; I’d much rather have people who empower and uplift me whenever I spend time with them. It’s intoxicating and makes for a better life. If I always spent my free time with emotional vampires; I’d be drained. It is a form of self-respect to decide who you will and will not tolerate in your life. Our time is limited; don’t get wrapped up in other people’s agendas. This is YOUR life. Respect yourself enough to surround yourself with amazing people. You deserve it!
Love and Light,
Deep down we always know what is best for us. We KNOW logically the things that we should and probably shouldn’t do; and even the company we should or shouldn’t keep. We are smart cookies and we should always have our best interest at heart. Kind of funny though; when it comes to relationships it appears that the mind and the heart sometimes just can’t get on the same team. It’s so frustrating; especially when going through a hurtful time. On one hand; you have your mind telling you that “it’s time to go”; meanwhile, your heart is still in the clouds holding on to false hope. The heart sees the best in everyone and every situation; I mean that’s where all the LOVE comes from after all, so it make sense. The heart wants to badly hold on; even when it’s very wrong for us. The heart is really big into giving chances too. It’s downright heartbreaking that the heart can be a pushover and will allow us to be put through hell.
The mind; on the other hand is the more rational, down to earth, logical side. The mind says things like: “This person hurt you; it’s time to let go.” “Don’t see you see the pattern? You will just get hurt again.” “You’ve gotten through worse; you will get through this; if you could just listen to me”. Meanwhile; the heart is responding…”but….but…..but” and sometimes you just have to tell the heart to sit down; especially during times of heartbreak! Unfortunately, your heart has blinders on during this time. Your heart is holding on to the good times, the “I feel bad for you’s”, the “I want to fix you’s”; the “but this time will be different.” You’ve got to give the heart credit for holding on to such hope and for being so optimistic; there’s definitely a time and place for the heart, but not when it comes to keeping yourself from a bad situation or from continuously getting hurt.
Be gentle with yourself throughout the process, but learn to listen to your mind. It may seem like “the end of the world” to your heart, but your ally logic needs to come into play sometimes. While it may seem there’s a war going on between your heart and mind; there will come a day that they are harmoniously working together at ease again. It will just take some time.
Love and Light, Tianna Leigh
Having authentic conversation makes my heart sing. I love hugs. I live for connecting with people on a deeper level. I feel as though it is my soul calling to share my stories and perspective to be a light in this world. I'm exactly where I need to be and I'm very much looking forward to the bright future...