Self love is the best love...
Sharing the journey of the girl who found herself on the other side of the world. Blogging my way into your hearts by sharing my personal stories of fails and wins throughout this crazy thing we call life.
People are always asking what the key to happiness is. Often times believing the key is in the next room aka the next chapter of their life. I’ll be happy when…I finish school, I get the new car, I get the new house, I get the new relationship, I get the new shoes; and the list goes on. A lot of people are putting off their happiness for another day; another year, and ultimately another life! If we’re always living in the future; looking forward to “someday” we miss so much. We miss the now. We miss the magic of life. The magic of life isn’t “in the next room”; it’s within. You can CHOOSE the key to happiness; today; right now! How? You wonder. I’ll tell you that the key to happiness is simply… being grateful. You’re thinking “Say what? That sounds like a bunch of pish posh to me!” I assure you it’s not!
That’s truly the key to happiness. Gratitude. Be grateful that you woke up, that you have a warm bed to sleep in, that you have friends, that you have a car, that you have a job; that you are alive. I mean it. Be grateful for it ALL. The more you focus on what you’re grateful for; the happier you will be. Honestly, you will only attract more things in your life to be grateful for. Focus on the abundance; not the lack. Focus on what you have; not what’s missing. That’s what gets us all tripped up; thinking that the next chapter will be all butterflies and rainbows. Some chapters are full of butterflies and rainbows; but not all, and that’s okay. Be grateful for it all. When you take a moment to take inventory of all of your blessings; big or small, I can almost guarantee you will be pleasantly surprised at how much there is to be grateful for.
Be present. Be here. Be grateful. That’s it. Sounds simple because it is. What are you grateful for today?
Love and light,
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I've always been self conscious about my fair skin; feeling less beautiful because of it. In America, the beauty standards typically include tan skin at any cost. Whereas my experience in Indonesia has been that the Indonesian women think of their naturally tan skin as "dirty" and have complimented me on my "beautiful skin" multiple times. It seems they would prefer to have lighter skin. Why do I share this vulnerable and personal story? Because this place is showing me how to love myself and all of myself. Something I shy away from is viewed as beauty here. What's the lesson? Love YOU and all of you because somewhere out there someone thinks you're the most beautiful person they've ever seen just as you are. Thank you to the wonderful people of Bali for teaching me to feel so comfortable in my own skin... Literally.
Love and light,
They say time flies when you're having fun. The reality is that time flies when you're not having fun; when you're pondering over the future; when you're crying over things lost. Time is always flying, rapidly; whether we want it to or not. The time will never be "just right" and time will never wait on you.
Jump into life; you only get one!
Love and Light,
Suicide. Even the word is frightening. Suicide; the act of taking one’s life voluntarily. It’s hard to imagine, right? The idea that life could become so seemingly unbearable that you someone would literally want to end it all. Hard to imagine, yet all too real. People take their lives every single day. People often call suicide one word: selfish. While it is hard to imagine why someone would CHOOSE to leave; it’s never about the people that are left behind. You see; when someone is at that point; it’s simply about ending the pain. That’s it. It’s not about “ending your life”; “dying”; “leaving loved ones behind”; “not caring or loving the people that are there for you”; no. It’s simply an antagonizing pain that lasts every single moment of your existence and you simply want a break. You just want to breathe easily; even if just for a moment. In that one split second when the decision is made; you feel lighter. You feel happier. It’s about to end. It’s about to stop hurting. Unfortunately, that one fleeting moment of clarity and happiness is followed by the last decision of the person’s life.
So, how do I know anything about this topic? Well, my friends, unfortunately; it’s a topic I know all too well. My mom committed suicide when I was 7; I was in the next room. Suicide has always been a topic of conversation in my life ever since. Moreover; I have had those moments of desperation where I too was on the edge of wanting to end my own life. Thankfully, I’m still here and intend to help others through my mother’s and my own pain. Unless you’ve lost someone very close to you; especially your mom to suicide; it’s understandably hard to relate. Not that it’s something I want to relate to anyone on as it means another tragedy has struck, but unfortunately; it has happened. A close friend of mine is going through this unimaginable pain currently. Although I lost my mom to suicide at 7 years old and this friend is an adult woman; the pain is still the same. No matter what happened or didn’t happen during our mom’s lives on earth; it’s still unimaginable to lose your mom at any age. Daughters especially need their mothers. Although we can’t fathom the pain they must have been feeling to leave their daughters behind; we must forgive them and continue to move forward without their physical beings.
If you are reading this as someone who has lost someone to suicide and you can’t wrap your mind around it; know that it wasn’t about you. It never is. If you’re reading this is as someone who is contemplating suicide; I beg you to hold on; even if for one more day. Then keep holding on each and every day. As someone who has been there myself; I can tell you that life is full of ebbs and flows and if I had succeeded in ending my life; I would be missing out on so much greatness and I know you would too.
Thank you for sharing in this very vulnerable topic with me. I hope you know you're not alone.
Love and Light, Tianna Leigh
Having authentic conversation makes my heart sing. I love hugs. I live for connecting with people on a deeper level. I feel as though it is my soul calling to share my stories and perspective to be a light in this world. I'm exactly where I need to be and I'm very much looking forward to the bright future...