Self love is the best love...
Sharing the journey of the girl who found herself on the other side of the world. Blogging my way into your hearts by sharing my personal stories of fails and wins throughout this crazy thing we call life.
Once upon a time I couldn’t fathom the idea of doing anything alone. I felt the need to have someone by my side; whether I was shopping, getting a manicure, or even sleeping. I felt the need to pack my schedule with dinners, visiting friend’s houses, running errands with friends; I mean anything I could do to fill my time. I simply did not want to be alone until I had to be. There were times I would get anxious towards the end of the work day; especially on a Friday if I had nowhere to go but home; where I’d be alone. There were even times I’d spend time with people I didn’t even particularly enjoy their company or conversation, but it was better than being alone. In hindsight I can see that I was coming from a very broken and unsure place.
It’s amazing to reflect back on now. My life and mindset are so different now. I absolutely L-O-V-E spending time alone. In fact; might I say; I actually prefer it. I think it’s such a huge growth point in my life and I think it’s so important to learn to be comfortable alone. Once you are comfortable on your own two feet; the world is your oyster! It’s seriously liberating. You can do ANTYHING you want because the only one holding you back is you. It’s amazing when you get to a place where you simply don’t have to simply “tolerate” people for fear of the loneliness creeping in.
I encourage you to get comfortable with spending time by yourself. Whether you are at home or out in the world. You should be your own best friend. You should know yourself better than anyone else. You should know how to follow your own heart; therefore, your own path. Getting still with yourself and your thoughts is a huge proponent to life’s success; in my opinion.
Love and light,
Why do we get so caught up in “what it’s supposed to look like”. What is the “it”; that I’m referring to? Your job, your relationship, your car, your house, your friends, your clothes; your life. It’s so easy to get caught up in timelines and grandiose ideas of what we think life “should” be. We’ve got to stop shoulding all over ourselves. It is enough to drive us mad. How are we to know what everything should look like anyway? Life is often full of surprises; good and bad, and that makes life unpredictable; yet exciting. Embrace it.
My advice would be to let go. Surrender! Go with the flow. There’s very little we can control besides our thoughts and actions. Everything else is secondary and is moving fast; with or without us. Simply surrender to the idea that life is happening; buckle up and enjoy the ride. Although you may think you know what it’s all supposed to look like; I assure you it’s going to be different than you’ve imagined. That’s okay! Just know that whatever is meant for you will never pass you by. Know that your story; no matter what happens or doesn’t happen according to your plan; it’s all working out for the best. Honestly; it ALWAYS turns out right side up. Let’s breathe a sigh of relief in knowing that everything is as it should be and everything will be just fine. Surrender and live a more peaceful life. Stop swimming against the current and float on, sugar.
I hope you learn to live your unapologetic life with ease. Relax. It’s all going according to plan. You’ll see.
Love and Light,
Do you ever find yourself walking on eggshells whenever you’re around someone? Do you find that their presence makes you uncomfortable? Do you find that you stay quiet more often than not around this person for fear that you might “upset” them? Why do we do this?! Why do we not honor our truth, our feelings, ourselves? Communication is the key to all relationships; platonic, romantic, family, children…etc. You must always be able to speak your truth. That means you can calmly and rationally communication your stance. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing that. You feel the way you do for a reason; don’t ignore that. Are some conversations going to be tough, uncomfortable; emotional? You betcha! Don’t go out of your way to be an asshole, but speak out! Sometimes communicating requires getting uncomfortable, but once you speak your truth you will feel so much better. Be considerate when choosing your words, but please don’t silence yourself to appease another. In the end; you’re the only one who will suffer.
Instead of carrying all the weight on your shoulders; speak your truth. The only way to truly live a fulfilled life is to ensure you are always in alignment with yourself. Only you know how you feel. Only you know what you’re thinking. Only you know your perception. Never assume others simply know how you’re feeling about a situation or a person. We are all in our own minds and living our own experiences. Sometimes it’s simply necessary to say it out loud. You are allowed. Don’t anticipate how the other person will react; that’s on them. Simply speak your truth. You are allowed to tell someone they hurt you. You are allowed to tell someone why you feel the way you do. Authentic communication will get you further in life than sweeping everything under the rug. Face things head on and the more you do; the easier it will become.
Honor yourself. You always have the right to speak your truth.
Love and light,
Having authentic conversation makes my heart sing. I love hugs. I live for connecting with people on a deeper level. I feel as though it is my soul calling to share my stories and perspective to be a light in this world. I'm exactly where I need to be and I'm very much looking forward to the bright future...