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Sharing the journey of the girl who found herself on the other side of the world. Blogging my way into your hearts by sharing my personal stories of fails and wins throughout this crazy thing we call life.
Have you ever found yourself dating a cubic zirconia in a Tiffany’s box? Think about that for a second and ponder what on earth I mean by that. Well, it was one of the best analogies I’ve ever heard and I just knew it described what so many of us have done in the dating world. This is especially true when you’re dating for all the wrong reasons.
First of all, we all know that you should be physically attracted to the person you’re dating or in a relationship with. If you didn’t know that; now you do. You can’t fake or pretend your way into chemistry honey…it’s either very there or very not there. Either way; you really have no control; it simply is or it isn’t.
If the chemistry is there – it’s awesome! I’d imagine it’s very similar to the effects of an actual drug in your system. You feel like you get “high” on this person. Looks aren’t everything (and shouldn’t be) but when you SEE everything you’ve imagined having in a mate AND he or she is looking right at you – oh lawdy! It’s just something you can’t describe. Just looking at this beautiful human being makes you all giddy. You think to yourself – “did I really get this lucky?!” “Gosh, he or she is sexy and they are all mine!”
You see, getting caught up and distracted by the “wrapping” is so easy to do and it’s something we’ve all done or will do at some point I’m sure. I mean, who doesn’t like looking at a “good-looking” person? Who doesn’t like “dating” a “good-looking” person? If we’re honest; we all do. The problem is that sometimes we get so blinded by the wrapping that we start tolerating behaviors that we wouldn’t normally tolerate. You find yourself justifying their shitty behavior with petty excuses (in our head) like, but… “They’re so cute!” “They’re so hot!” “I’ll never be able to date someone this good-looking again?!” “We look so good together!” Clearly; you’re caught up in the wrapping.
Sure, you may have great chemistry and you may feel great standing next to them in the moment, but what about all the other moments? The moments when they’re discounting your feelings, using you, manipulating you and hurting you. I don’t care if they’re the “sexiest man or woman on the planet” – it’s no excuse for you to discount unacceptable behavior. Being “good-looking” does not give someone a free pass to treat others terribly for their personal gain.
So back to this whole cubic zirconia idea. You see honey, you SAW the Tiffany’s box and just assumed it was the real deal. It’s happened to all of us. “Good looking” people can be quite charming and know exactly what they’re doing. They’ll keep you around as long as it takes for you to figure out how ugly they really are. It’s time to realize you’ve simply been caught up in a cubic zirconia in a Tiffany’s box and you more than deserve that rare, very real diamond! So toss that cubic zirconia back in the sea and realize that no matter how pretty the box is wrapped with a pretty bow on it; it’s still and always will be an EMPTY box. Wait for the person who sees YOU for the rare diamond in the legitimate Tiffany’s box that you are! It will be so worth the wait.
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