Self love is the best love...
Sharing the journey of the girl who found herself on the other side of the world. Blogging my way into your hearts by sharing my personal stories of fails and wins throughout this crazy thing we call life.
I know you feel like you’ve lost your way and that life will never ever feel normal again. I know your heart hurts, sleep is currently a thing of the past and the tears keep coming out of nowhere. I’ll guess that you’re probably replaying certain past situations over and over in your head wondering what you could have done differently or what you did wrong. Trust me, I’ve been there myself a time or two and I remember all too well what it feels like. You had this clear vision of what you thought your life was going to look like. You had such high hopes for the future. So, now what? What are you supposed to do now that the rug was pulled out from under you?
First of all, I’m so sorry that you’re in pain and I know it feels like it won’t go away EVER, but I can assure you that indeed, over time, it does. It will take time to heal and it may not be the easiest road ahead, but you’re not alone. In order to truly heal though; you’re going to actually have to FEEL it. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but it’s the truth. You have to grieve what was lost or at least what you feel was lost in the current moment and get back to the basics; yourself.
My advice to you would be to make sure you’re staying as busy as possible. An idle mind isn’t something you want to deal with right now; trust me! Surround yourself with positive, loving, and understanding friends and family. Support systems are crucial in these situations. Do a little spring cleaning – get rid of anything that reminds you of this heartache. I don’t mean necessarily throw it in the dumpster unless that makes you feel better but I’d definitely recommend packing it all up and putting it far, far away. Memories tied to “stuff” can be brutal during the beginning of the healing process. My strongest advice would be; don’t date! Please! Lonely can make you do some downright silly things. Learn to love your own company and get back to being okay being alone. There’s a BIG difference between lonely and alone. I know even “alone” sounds lonely but over time; it won’t be so tough.
Get back to YOU darling! Keep putting one foot in front of the other and one day you’ll wake up and out of seemingly nowhere; it won’t hurt anymore. I swear it gets better! I can’t wait to see all the good you do with all this extra YOU time. You deserve it after all! Don’t forget to be kind and gentle with yourself throughout this sensitive time – what you’re feeling is probably completely normal because unseen goodbyes surely hurt the most. One day at a time; that is how you will get through this. Sending lots of strength, love and hugs your way!
Having authentic conversation makes my heart sing. I love hugs. I live for connecting with people on a deeper level. I feel as though it is my soul calling to share my stories and perspective to be a light in this world. I'm exactly where I need to be and I'm very much looking forward to the bright future...