Self love is the best love...
Sharing the journey of the girl who found herself on the other side of the world. Blogging my way into your hearts by sharing my personal stories of fails and wins throughout this crazy thing we call life.
Life; it can be your best friend and sometimes your enemy. Sometimes you’ll dance with life and other times you’ll want to punch life in the face. Either way; learn to embrace it. During the good times; be grateful. During the bad times; be grateful. Say what? Yes! Be grateful for the bad times too. Without the pain, the confusion, the heartache; we’d have no barometer to compare our good times to. Harsh reality, but it’s true.
The hard times will force you out of your comfort zone and will sometimes kick your butt. Although, the awesomely wonderful thing about the hard times is that they will force you to grow. In my opinion; there’s nothing better than growing through an experience and honestly; we have to be tested in order to grow. You can’t stay in your safe, comfortable, predictable bubble and expect to reach your full potential. It just doesn’t happen that way and I know that’s not what you want to hear, but guess what; that’s probably a sign you need to grow!
I know that every single time I’ve been “down and out” about one thing or another; I want to fast forward and get this “growth opportunity” over with. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. We have to sit with the pain, feel the heartache, cry the tears and grieve what’s been lost or what is changing. The only way out truly is through so don’t avoid, don’t numb, don’t run away; feel it all. Once you feel it and stare it right in the face; you will start to see that you are growing stronger BECAUSE of this time. Trust the process.
Focus on the lessons being learned as you replay the scenario in your head. I can guarantee there are things you will learn about yourself throughout this process. We’ve heard “When you know better; you do better” so these painful experiences will be no different. You’re experiencing this to help you become MORE of who you are supposed to be. As you reflect; hold on to the lessons and the “if I knew then what I know now” moments that arise. You will learn. You will grow. Your only responsibility to yourself going forward is to truly learn the lesson(s) being revealed through this pain. There’s ALWAYS a lesson to be learned and once you gain clarity on what that lesson is; you can’t unlearn it; you can’t not see it. Learn it; apply it; change it; whatever has to be done…do it! Don’t keep repeating the same patterns and the same scenarios thus creating the same pain you’re now experiencing. Change it! Learn it! Take those “aha” moments and move forward.
I hope you can turn your pain into power and can apply the lessons learned. You will be better because of this time in your life; promise. Be grateful for it all; you’re becoming stronger in the meantime. In fact; the next time a life dip comes lurking; you’ll be better equipped to handle it. You’ll know you survived everything so far and you’ve already learned so much. As we get older; each dip will be less intense because we’ll have more lessons learned in our toolkit. We’ll have more faith in ourselves and the process of our lives; because it’s meant to be lived out loud and living life out loud requires growth.
Having authentic conversation makes my heart sing. I love hugs. I live for connecting with people on a deeper level. I feel as though it is my soul calling to share my stories and perspective to be a light in this world. I'm exactly where I need to be and I'm very much looking forward to the bright future...